Some People.. or maybe it's me
I just got a call from my friend from law school. She was a year ahead of me and already graduated. We're not close friends, we're sort of "couple" friends - we go on double dates with her husband and Vadim and I, but I always feel sort of awkward speaking to her on the phone, and I wouldn't feel comfortable spending time with her alone. But regardless. She calls me to ask if I'm taking a certain course this semester, which I am. Turns out that she knows a girl in that course who missed some lecture(s) and now needs somebody's notes. I say "Sure, no problem. What dates did she miss?" And my friend says "Well, I don't know what dates she missed. She maybe just needs an outline of the whole course. But I know you don't have it, you make it as the semester progresses, so why don't you email me your notes each week and I'll forward them to her".
My eyes bug out. I love this sort of thing. So I say, pretending to be stupid just to avoid the uncomfortable discussion that's bound to begin any second "why? Just have her email me or talk to me in class and I'll send her the notes for the dates she missed." To which my friend replies "But that's going to take forever. What do you care? Just send me all your notes." Here we go, I knew this would happen. So I start explaining that I don't understand why I would send anyone ALL of my notes when this person (whom I don't even know) needs my notes for 1 specific lecture. And granted that it would take me 3 seconds to email the one file which contains all my notes, regardless I don't think it's fair, I never thought it was fair to have someone skip class but have the benefit of my dragging my ass to that same class and typing every word the professor says for two hours straight. (I didn't say this whole last sentence part to my friend). Just how it would never occur to me to ask anyone for all of their notes, and I don't think it make sense for her friend to ask this of me.
And in response I get this huge loud lecture about how I have a completely "unbelievably ridiculous outlook" on this whole thing. How my attitude shocks and baffles my friend, who would send her notes to anyone who asks her without thinking twice about it, without giving a damn. She is basically lecturing me and taunting me saying, "It doesn't matter, so just send me all your notes now." Although I was almost ready to cry (I can't handle confrontations, nor can I handle being rebuked for no reason what so ever by someone so ridiculous), I actually stood my ground. At some point during her chastizing of me, I said "fine". She said "fine what?" I bet she thought that this is me giving in and agreeing to everything just to get her off my case. It was tempting. But instead I said "Fine, tell her she can email me and tell me which notes she needs, and I will send her those notes." Then there was an "ok" from my friend, pronounced in a tone which hinted that she thinks I am a total nutcase, then a few moments of utterly unberable silence and then we said goodbye.
I don't understand people. I don't understand why they at least can't respect someone else's views instead of pushing their own, even if their views differ, when that someone else has a concrete and easily articulated reason for doing what they are doing. It must be so nice to go through life being a total asshole and thinking that everyone owes you something and not even think twice before asking for ridiculous favors.
My eyes bug out. I love this sort of thing. So I say, pretending to be stupid just to avoid the uncomfortable discussion that's bound to begin any second "why? Just have her email me or talk to me in class and I'll send her the notes for the dates she missed." To which my friend replies "But that's going to take forever. What do you care? Just send me all your notes." Here we go, I knew this would happen. So I start explaining that I don't understand why I would send anyone ALL of my notes when this person (whom I don't even know) needs my notes for 1 specific lecture. And granted that it would take me 3 seconds to email the one file which contains all my notes, regardless I don't think it's fair, I never thought it was fair to have someone skip class but have the benefit of my dragging my ass to that same class and typing every word the professor says for two hours straight. (I didn't say this whole last sentence part to my friend). Just how it would never occur to me to ask anyone for all of their notes, and I don't think it make sense for her friend to ask this of me.
And in response I get this huge loud lecture about how I have a completely "unbelievably ridiculous outlook" on this whole thing. How my attitude shocks and baffles my friend, who would send her notes to anyone who asks her without thinking twice about it, without giving a damn. She is basically lecturing me and taunting me saying, "It doesn't matter, so just send me all your notes now." Although I was almost ready to cry (I can't handle confrontations, nor can I handle being rebuked for no reason what so ever by someone so ridiculous), I actually stood my ground. At some point during her chastizing of me, I said "fine". She said "fine what?" I bet she thought that this is me giving in and agreeing to everything just to get her off my case. It was tempting. But instead I said "Fine, tell her she can email me and tell me which notes she needs, and I will send her those notes." Then there was an "ok" from my friend, pronounced in a tone which hinted that she thinks I am a total nutcase, then a few moments of utterly unberable silence and then we said goodbye.
I don't understand people. I don't understand why they at least can't respect someone else's views instead of pushing their own, even if their views differ, when that someone else has a concrete and easily articulated reason for doing what they are doing. It must be so nice to go through life being a total asshole and thinking that everyone owes you something and not even think twice before asking for ridiculous favors.
posted by SmallWonder at 2:16 PM
2 Comments:
Hey, I am totally with you! I hate freeloaders. Your "friend" is totally unjustified in her attitude. You have every right to feel the way you do. I am proud of you and glad you didn't give in! But then aqain, I know you, and I know you would not give in to something like that.:) You don't like confrontations, but you can often come out on top in them and you are not one to have people walk all over you.:)
D.
That always happens to you! Everyone wants your notes, they must be really good. You should print them on red paper and sell them like that thing in college.
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